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Holiday Highlight: Raven and Lily

Holiday Highlight Raven and Lily

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Holiday Highlight Dresses

 

The holidays are indeed upon us… And getting back to my original plan this month, I am honored to feature amazing businesses in the coming weeks that deserve high praise for not only the “beauties” they sell but also to celebrate the mission behind their brand.

 

This Christmas has taken on a whole new meaning for me as a single mom, so I am excited to share about a thoughtful company that empowers the working woman to experience financial reward and personal freedom as a result of unique international partnerships.

 

Holiday Highlight

Kirsten Dickerson {the tall blond} alongside her beautiful artisan partners

 

It is a joy to talk with my dear friend Kirsten Dickerson, Co-Founder of Raven and Lily, for this post.
We have known each other for over 20 years from our Pi Beta Phi sorority days, so it a blessing to watch her business thrive as she changes lives everyday. Her vision to offer trend-forward fair trade fashion, accessories, and home furnishings to empower women on a global scale truly inspires me.

 

Here is a little Q and A with Kirsten.

 

J- What was your inspiration behind Raven and Lily?

 

K- My inspiration behind Raven + Lily is the value of women. I believe in dignity oriented opportunity for women, and I know that when women are empowered, they will invest in their families and communities. I created a lifestyle brand that would provide the Western women with products that reflect the beauty and culture of the women who made them. We think about the impact on people and the planet at every stage of production and follow fair trade standards. Our customers are part of the beautiful redemptive stories of hope unfolding in the lives of the women who make our designs.

 

Holiday Highlight Outfit

J- Can you explain your signature look / describe the brand behind Raven and Lily?

K- We are modern, yet organic. I love neutrals, texture, minimalism and a little bling. I believe in designing things for fashion and the home you can love for years and aren’t dictated by trends. All materials used in Raven + Lily designs are natural and sustainably sourced.

 

 

J- Could you tell us a bit about your heart for philanthropy and vision for sustainable fashion?

 

K– With every purchase, our customers are helping to provide fair trade employment for at risk women.  With every purchase, our customers are also helping to donate back to help provide micro loans for HIV+ women who have graduated from a business skills training program. At every stage of our production process, we think through the impact on people and the planet…as far back as the buttons and where cotton is sourced.  We want to know the story behind our designs so that our customer can be confident they are having a positive and not negative impact with their purchase.

Statistically, fashion is the second largest polluter, 1 in 6 people are employed in the industry, less than 3% earn a livable wage, and 80% are women. These stats are heart-breaking, but I’m in the business of breaking that negative impact and proving that it is possible to produce beautiful products that empower women and protect our beautiful world.

 

 

J- What tips would give others to keep in mind this holiday season when shopping?

 

K- Slow down, and look for opportunities to gift, dress, and decorate thoughtfully this holiday season. It takes time, but its possible to do this.  There are so many wonderful companies and products that do good in the world now. If you don’t know where to start, try this excellent of social good companies  http://www.thegoodtrade.com

 

Holiday Highlight Bag

 

J- What is your favorite piece in the store right now (if you had to choose one)? 

 

K- For fashion, I love the goat hair bucket bag and Simbi black dress with brass buckles. It’s the perfect LBD for year round wear.  For the home, I love the wool pom blankets and pillows from Morocco. They are on my master bed and look perfect for the holidays though I use them year round!

 

Holiday Highlight glamping

 

J- Talent runs in your family. Tell us a little about  your husbands movie premiere and background?

 

K- Well, my husband, Brandon Dickerson, is a film-maker and current director at Laity Lodge.  His most recent movie, “Amanda and Jack Go Glamping” was filmed at our former glamping retreat, Green Acres, outside Austin and was just released. You can download and watch it this week! Our son is also an aspiring film-maker and my daughter wants to be a culinary artist.  So I guess its safe to say we are a family of artists who really love movies and nature.

 

 

Learn More About Raven and Lily by visiting them ONLINE or on INSTAGRAM

 

I  hope your holidays are filled with happiness and peace. It always pays royally when you shop with purpose and with brands who gives back a hundred-fold like Raven + Lilly.

 

Blessings to You and Yours this Holiday Season.

Jen

Skip The Crazy This Black Friday

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Now, don’t let the title fool you, I know good and well most of us are doing some kind of shopping this Black Friday. However, I am trying to make it as easy and quick as possible so you can get back to laying on the couch with family and respecting your time to give thanks.

 

Above are tons of sales, both locally and nationally, and their links to guide you through your shopping experience. And to make things one step easier for you, I’ve added a SHOP tab to my site with easy to snag options for gifts under $100, for him, for you and for the family!

 

For those of you still needing to get out and face the crowds… Here are some tips on making your excursion a little less painful:

 

  1. Do all the ONLINE shopping you can first, before trying to get out and about. And don’t forget to take advantage of free shipping and gift wrapping, it is such a time saver in the long run!

 

  1. When going out to the stores make sure to prepare like a momma. Bring snacks and water to keep your pulse and blood sugar going with you!

 

  1. Don’t feel like you need to do it all. Splurge on a nanny for the kids so you can shop child free.

 

  1. Better yet, make it a girls day! Meet up with your friends and throw a relaxing lunch in between stores.

 

  1. Always remember to dress for trying on! This sounds silly, and though you might not be shopping for yourself, it is always something to keep in mind. Wear a regular bra, not a sports bra, and cami so you can easily slip on and off tops. Think comfortable shoes and make sure to have on bottoms (not a dress).

 

  1. Take advantage of curbside pickups at stores like Nordstrom’s. You can shop ahead of time and roll right up to snag your bags.

 

  1. Be willing to valet park (or prepare for walking). It is a good way to shed those newly added turkey pounds!

 

  1. Prioritize. Don’t think you will make it to every store on your list. Know the top things you want to score deals on and go for those first. Anything else is a bonus and a pat on your back!

 

 

Happy Thanksgiving to you all! And happy shopping to those brave souls out there.

 

 

  • Jen Young

Just Saying Thanks This Holiday Season…

It’s 11:23 pm, and I am just siting down to draft this post after a crazy-pants day. You know the ones—when you pile laundry upon work upon dinner upon kid duties upon bills and so on… It is the holiday season after all! But somehow I have tremendous energy and passion left to share how thankful I am that you are a part of my life and the Forever Styled Community. Without your support as a faithful client, diligent reader and/or dear friend, I wouldn’t be the same!

 

Since the month of November often warrants expressing gratitude and appreciation for the key influencers and blessings of our lives, I am excited to share insight on some of my favorite boutiques and why their vision for fashion is changing the local style scene as we enter the busy holiday season.

 

But, before we launch into that upcoming “love fest”, God has given me some insight I thought appropriate to share before we get out our mega Christmas lists and overstuffed turkeys, become irrational towards the person who steals our parking space during black Friday, or suffer from an egg nog hangover. Not to preach, but let’s not succumb to the madness this year, shall we? How can we reign the in crazy and actually enjoy the time with loved ones and friends instead of stressing out and making ourselves nuts?

 

Here are some ways I am planning to stand out like Clark Grizzwald {you MUST watch Christmas Vacation if you have no idea what I am talking about} but without the 2000 strands of lights…..

 

1.} Approach the holiday season by setting your intension. Plan out your shopping with a budget in mind and stick to it. Don’t allow wish lists to pressure you to invest in things you cannot afford. For me, this year is about creating new traditions with my kids like cooking family recipes together, watching classic Christmas shows, sleeping {a lot—which is not common for me!} and playing a ton of ping pong. I also hope to gift more “experiences” than legos and xbox games this year. Just last week I had the pleasure of meeting my new friend Blue in the horse ring during my recent Charismatic Cowgirl experience with friends at Sandra De Robinson’s gorgeous ranch. Who knew a horse could be telepathic? This “blew” my mind…no pun intended.

 

Holiday Season Horse

 

2.} Bless others by practicing random acts of kindness. My personal goal is to do something thoughtful and creative for someone I don’t know every day until Dec 31st. I am journaling about people’s reactions and so far—I am in awe. For example, today I found a penny with the year of my birth on it while I was filling up my car.  I ended up giving it to the man across my view. He smiled HUGE, and said thank you. Once nestled in his car, he turned and hugged his wife after showing her his lucky prize. Tomorrow I plan to buy for the person behind me in the Starbucks line. Scatter joy…it is contagious.

 

Holiday Season Coffee

 

3.} Extend Grace to Yourself if you burn the turkey or holiday ham. Most of us put too much pressure on ourselves to cook the perfect meal, outfit the best dressed home and body, and maintain composure with that 5th glass of cabernet. Avoid feeling bad if you burn the bird or anything else for that matter—order take out and get over it. Life is short. As long as your clothes are on and clean and your belly has food in it… Be happy. Give yourself grace when things get out of sorts or your hair is on fire. You deserve a break this season. Remember to silence the voice that says you aren’t enough and eat that giant slice of pie.

 

Hope these quick tips bring light and harmony to your home and heart this month. What are your tips for thriving during the holidays? Do share…

 

 

Love,

 

Jen

Soul Care For My Soul Sisters

Soul Care

 

We started this month talking about empowering the working woman and celebrating just how awesome she is! As the weeks have progressed {what the heck— it is already the last week of October???} I’ve noticed how empowering her also means we need to “treat” her. Much like in a plane, you are no good if you don’t put on your oxygen mask first. Without some soul care you are bound to fall flat on all the everyday demands of both work and family.

 

Here are my top ten routines/tips to keep your heart and body healthy and happy… and none of them take too long so no excuses!

 

Soul Care Massage

1. Massage: Maybe it isn’t a full hour at a nice spa for your price conscious ladies? Maybe it is just a foot rub you bribed your kids to give you? Either way, having that moment to relax and breath means more than most could know. The power of physical touch and working out all the kinks in our bodies is so important as we press onward to our goal to change history with our lives.

 

Soul Care Lip Stick

ONE  | TWO  |  THREE  |  FOUR  |  FIVE

2. New Lip Color: Ever gotten a glance in the mirror around 4 pm and thought, “Yikes! Is that me??” A very simple way to combat this situation is by adding a new lipstick to your routine. Stop into a CVS or Walgreens for a quick fix. Or stop by the lip counter at your local Nordstrom or Sephora to test out the best shades for your pout.

 

Soul Care Flowers

3. Fresh Cut Flowers: You’re already at the store at least 3 times a week… Or is that just me?? Stop to smell the roses (literally) and bring a bundle home. I am convinced fresh flowers liven up a home and warm a heart. I shop Trader Joe’s for the most cost effective beauties, and love potted orchids which last up to three months with a simple ice cube to water each week and bright, indirect sunlight!

 

Soul Care Shoes

ONE  |  TWO  | THREE  |  FOUR  |  FIVE

4. Shoes That Fit: Some days we just need to walk on clouds. Every woman should have one pair of sneakers that are the “go-to” on days when your feet just can’t take it. I adore these leopard sneakers with skinny jeans and a denim top for an easy kick around solution.

 

Soul Care Food

5. Lunch Date: Take the time to meet a life-giving friend for lunch or coffee. Your soul, heart, body, etc. will thank you. Explore a new part of town or eat Dim Sum style. Your palette needs as much stretching as your wardrobe.

 

 


Soul Care Books
SO LONG INSECURITY  |  LIONESS ARISING  |  THE SILENT WIFE

6. A Great New Book: I am face planted in two books right now that are both convicting and inspiring me to do better and be a better women. Check out So Long Insecurity by Beth Moore and Lioness Arising by Lisa Bevere to spur you on to greatness. Get lost in a fiction book like The Silent Wife to escape “adulting” on a daily basis.

 

Soul Care Coffee

7. Warm Beverage: Perfect for the shift in the weather! A stop at Starbucks or your favorite local coffee/tea shop in the morning is a great way to take a second for yourself. Hold the cup between your hands and breathe in the sweet smell of a seasonal pumpkin spice latte or chai tea. The pleasant aroma might be all you need to stay inspired!

 

Soul Care Nails

ONE  |  TWO  | THREE  |  FOUR 

 

8. Mani / Pedi: This is a monthly “must do” activity if you ask me, and more importantly, one that relays the message of your first impression. Keeping up with your nails is not only a treat but necessary to suggest proper grooming is important to you—especially as a working professional.

 

Soul Care Icecream

9. Sweet Delight: Have 20 minutes between after school activities and meetings? Grab French fries or ice cream. And I dare you to not shame yourself for the treat afterwards! We are so hard on ourselves and the added pressure is just not needed. Be happy and eat those fries, ladies! Once a month won’t kill you.

 

Soul Care Running

10. Time Without the Phone: This is such a big one and maybe the most difficult. Try leaving your phone in the car during your yoga class or going on a short walk to take in nature uninterrupted. Give yourself some time to separate from the world; everything will still be there when you get back!

Finally, take a moment or two each morning to look in the mirror and remind yourself how great you truly are! Give yourself a compliment, we all know we deflect enough of them anyways. You matter. You are important. And you are created by a loving God who does not make junk!

 

Blessings and Style Peace,

Jen Young

Elaine Turner Fall 2017 MUST SEES!

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London is calling and so is color with this AMAZING Elaine Turner Fall Collection! I’m excited to share with you all the latest in ET, and show how vibrant colors can be worn year round. Inspired by all that is shining and lovely, the mix of enhanced fall and dulled romantic colors makes for the perfect pair.

 

From dresses to bags, jackets and shoes, here are some of my favorite items from the latest collection:

 

Elaine Turner Fall clutch

CLUTCH (coming soon)  |  JEANS (online this week)  |  TOP (online this week)

Elaine Turner Fall PurseBAG (coming soon)  |  VEST (coming soon)  |  JEANS (coming soon)  |  SHIRT (online this week)

 

Elaine Turner Fall Jacket

JACKET (coming soon)  |  SHIRT  |  JEWELRY (coming soon)

 

Elaine Turner Shoes

SHOES

 

Elaine Turner Pink

SHOES  |  CLUTCH  |  DRESS

 

Elaine Turner Skirt

JACKET (coming soon)  |  SKIRT (limited edition)  |  BAG (coming soon)

 

Elaine Turner London

JACKET (online this week)  |  SKIRT (coming soon)  |  BAG (coming soon) | SHIRT (online this week)

 

Elaine Turner Dress

BOOTS (online this week)  |  CLUTCH (coming soon)  |  DRESS

 

For those of you loving this new line as much as I am… book a FREE one-on-one styling session to see more! Be one of the FIRST FOUR to book an appointment, and spend $100+ or $150+ with me to get an Elaine Turner gift card. Sign up by emailing me: jen@foreverstyled.com

 

This is the perfect time to kick start your Fall wardrobe and replace some of those over loved items you’ve been hanging on too.

 

 

 

Stylishly yours,

 

Jen Young

BREAKING THE FASHION RULES

 

Sometimes we do it on purpose, and sometimes we don’t even realize it. But breaking fashion rules is now a GREAT IDEA! I don’t know about you, but taking time to follow fashion rules can get kind of tedious… And between car pool line and shuffling between clients, it is one of the last things on my mind.

 

So what better way than to kick these worries to the curb than by taking a stand and forging our own style street?!

 

 

TOP | JEANS | SHOES

This White Top and Jean combo is the perfect example of wearing white AFTER Labor Day! How fabulous will this clean slate look with brown knee high boots? I’ll tell you how fabulous… Enough to make me say yes to a long-standing fashion no-no!

 

 

BOOTS | BAG

Mixing and matching is a thing, so why can’t mixing and NOT matching be one?? Pair a Cognac Ankle Bootie with a black bucket purse for contrast. This is a great way to add flair to a simple pair of jeans and tee.

 

 

HEELS | TOP | SKIRT

DRESS | HEELS

Combining Pink and Red or Black and Blue is no longer something to turn your nose up at. These Pink and Red Heels are the perfect way to mix the two colors in a sophisticated way. It is also lovely when paired with a simple black dress for a pop of color! Or try a pink top and red skirt. Then you must try a simple black and navy dress with a black heel for your everyday work look.

 

 

JACKET | SHOES | DRESS

Eventually us Texas girls just have to come to terms with the fact that there is no such thing as winter in our neck of the woods… We also need to stand up and support suede! Instead of staring at the packed full closet of coats we will never wear, let’s start doing it anyways! Dawn a lighter colored jacket, like this Suede one, that will also work for your Spring or Summer wardrobe.

 

 

Tell me what your favorite fashion rule is to break in the comments below!

 

 

Stylishly yours,

 

Jen Young

 

VIRTUAL MONTHLY STYLING STEP-BY-STEP

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A few weeks ago I introduced my new virtual shopping service in hopes to assist each and every one of you to have a more simple and fun experience with defining your personal style! This service will allow me to create a set number of outfits using your existing wardrobe inventoried virtually and added items I choose each month.

 

Shopping Service Options:

1) A one time fee for 12 outfits

2) 12 outfits each month for 3 months

3) 12 outfits each month for 6 months

There is a $50 one-time on-boarding fee to allow time for me to assess and familiarize myself with your closet, fee is waived if we virtually inventory. And if the task of inventorying your own closet makes you shake… No worries! Ask me to come to your home and do it for you at an additional cost.

 

— HERE IS HOW IT WORKS —

Virtual Shopping Service Login

First and foremost, you will need to sign up for the service through this SIMPLE FORM. It will ask which package you would like to have, what kind of events you have coming up so we can plan ahead, and what day you would like the outfits to hit your inbox each month! I will then send you an invitation to engage with Hue & Stripe.

This is where things get fun! After creating your account, I will guide you through the process of taking and uploading photos of your current wardrobe; everything from accessories to shoes, bags and outfits. I can also do this for you at an extra charge!

Once I familiarize myself with your existing wardrobe and the events you have coming up, I will begin working my fashion magic.

 

Virtual Shopping Service Outfits

 

By taking items already in your virtual closet and adding things I see fit from other stores and boutiques, I will create a bulk of outfits specified for your lifestyle, body type and budget. The great thing about Hue and Stripe is it makes purchasing the items you may be lacking SUPER easy!

Virtual Shopping Service Shopping

You can see that the necklace and jeans are from a client’s closet, but the top and shoes are not. If she wanted to purchase them to complete the outfit— all she would need to do is click through on the image which will direct her to purchase!

 

“Jen’s Virtual Shopping Service has already saved me time and patience! It is nice knowing what items I need to buy to complete my wardrobe and to not have to stare blindly at my closet each morning debating what to wear. Life saver is an understatement!” – Shelby C

 

Yes… It is that simple! Having the wardrobe you always wanted is literally a few clicks away! Are you ready to take the plunge into a happier and more fun shopping experience? Can’t wait for you all to check it out!

 

 

Stylishly yours,

 

Jen Young

Reduce, Reuse, REPLACE!

 

TOP  ||  SANDALS  ||  HEELS  ||  PURSE  ||  YOGA PANTS

 

Ever used a tube of mascara and stopped to think, “Have I really had this for over a year?!” A good thing to know when it comes to fashion and beauty routines is how often we need to replace things {p.s.—it is every three months for mascara}!

 

There are no hard and fast rules but these are merely some tips and guidelines I use:

 

1.} I always tell clients to adopt the practice of buying the best quality you can afford and take care of the items you purchase. Consider your price per wear–the amount you spend on an item divided by the number of times you wear/use it over the life cycle it lives in your wardrobe. For example, I recently spent $195 on Tory Burch sandals which I have already worn them 3 times a week since purchasing them in June. My price per wear is considerably lower due to how often I am putting that investment piece on rotation in my wardrobe. That is the goal!

 

So besides investing in this summer’s (and every other season in Texas) top sandal, what else should be on your list?

 

Replace Bras

 

2.} Invest in classic pieces like fun oxford tops, good jeans, and a staple dress. Defining your core style will help with this. Along with basics, always consider the proper undergarments as noted in my recent blog post, When Bad Bras Happen to Good People. By adopting an essentials based wardrobe, you will be less likely to spend money on trendy things that go out of style and more on things that have staying power in your every day rotation.

 

3.} A little tip I like to share to maximize your wardrobe is to get things altered as your body and the trends evolve. When you consider reinventing hemlines and changing out buttons on older jackets,  sometimes you can salvage key pieces without breaking the bank. Don’t spend more than 20% of what the garment originally cost to make it work for you.

 

4.} When it comes to replacing shoes, like a classic pump, consider how many times you wear them? You should be wearing your shoes enough that you can see the change but not so long everyone else can too. No more walking around on missing heel caps and putting up with broken buckles. Wear shoes until they show physical wear and tear and then consider replacing them. There is also no shame in rehabbing “loved shoes.” Take them to your local Shoe Hospital and see what can be done to save a torn heel or worn out foot pad.

 

5.} We all love workout gear, but we don’t always love the price tag. While investing in Lululemon or Outdoor Voices, you will gain a better shelf life than going somewhere like Target. I like to shop places like Marshalls or T.J. Maxx for name brands at a lower price. Remember, you don’t want to look homeless when you are working out, and please COVER YOUR REAR. I ain’t got time to view your whale tail. It is hard enough to get myself to a gym, much less be greeted by your hiney.

 

6.} Last but never least… Handbags! To keep handbags fresh and extending their lifespan, change and clean them out on a weekly rotation. Know if you buy good quality bags you can always re-sell them later. Rebagg is a great resource I provide to consign high end items if you are interested! I also adore my local resource Fashion Reloved.

 

 

Don’t just stop at Rebagg, there are so many options for letting go of the things you are replacing or recycling. Here is a list of my top picks for resale, consignment and donations:

 

Resale Shops

  1. Moss Designer Consignment
  2. Buffalo Exchange
  3. Still in Style
  4. Turquoise and Pearls

 

Online Consignment

  1. Thred Up
  2. The Real Real
  3. Tradsey

 

Donation Centers

  1. Texas Reach Out Ministries
  2. South Austin Pregnancy Resource Center
  3. Dress For Success

 

For other questions on shopping smart, what to replace, or to dig even deeper with my new SHOPPING SERVICE, email me! jen@foreverstyled.com

 

 

Stylishly yours,

 

Jen Young

The New Shopping Service

Shopping Service

 

Do you spend your mornings staring at a closet full of clothes with nothing to wear? Or perhaps you wish you still had the time to do that given your busy lifestyle and making everyone else but YOU a priority? Being a stylist, my goal is to make shopping {in your own closet or stores} effortless and fun!

 

So, I’ve found a way to make the process even easier.  I am proud to introduce a new shopping service: Virtual Monthly Styling through the exclusive Hue and Stripe application!

 

This is a new shopping service that will allow me to create a set number of outfits using your existing wardrobe inventoried virtually and added items I choose each month. They will hit your inbox on the day you choose and be curated according to your lifestyle, body type and budget. The best part about it… everything happens online reducing your costs and saving you time while getting dressed in the morning!

 

You heard that right. Not only will your wardrobe be added to the online Hue and Stripe system, but the clothing I choose for you will be easy to purchase if any wardrobe gaps exist. The custom outfits I create will be organized in folders in your personal profile. We can also create visual style boards {like Pinterest} and interact to be inspired for the future.

 

“Excellent Service!!  Virtually Shopping tailored to your needs!  I am busy mom of 3 kids, PTO Board Member/Volunteer and work from home, which leaves little time to REALLY shop.  I’m not talking Target shopping.  ForeverStyled has saved me from picking up last minute items that don’t fit and hang in my closet taking up space.  Having a closet in Hue and Stripe is awesome!!  I can go through at a time convenient for me and shop. I just took of advantage of this great service during the Nordstrom 1/2 year sale, lifesaver!!!  Highly recommend this service.” – Shannon G

 

This shopping service is great for keeping your wardrobe refreshed, wearing more of your clothing, and helping organize your closet without stress. And for ladies with a schedule full of work events or charity luncheons, we can set your yearly calendar so the outfits you receive include those options too! And if you need a seasonal purge, I can conduct a virtual assessment and encourage you to let those unlovely items go!

 

 

Here are the shopping service options:

 

9 outfits a month for $45

12 outfits a month for $60

 

Pre-pay twelve months for $600

 

Shopping Service Hue and Stripe

 

There is a $50 one-time on-boarding fee to allow time for me to assess and familiarize myself with your closet. And if the task of inventorying your own closet makes you shake… No worries! Ask me to come to your home and do it for you at an additional cost.

Are you ready to make this virtual style leap of faith?? Please submit this short form and let us begin! I will send you an invoice including the on-boarding fee and instructions on uploading your existing wardrobe!

Stylishly yours,

Jen Young

Think Thin

Think Thin

This is a message to all the ladies out there who need a little mid-week pick me up. I want to bring your attention to the difference in being thin and thinking thin. Often we force ourselves into crazy diets and monster juice cleanses. Just last week I fell victim to one of these in which I spent a full day hugging the toilet… and then some. I mean—I do feel better {sort of} but this girl has gotta chew SOMETHING ! Thank God for almonds—just saying.

 

So ladies, here is the deal. There is a big contrast in forcing yourself to be thin and thinking thin. We spend so much time getting kids and spouses ready, ourselves presentable, and working our tails off to support the dream. There really shouldn’t be any time reserved for running our self-esteem into the ground. But somehow that always seems to make the cut in our daily ritual.

 

Think Thin Thoughts

 

STEPS TO THINKING THIN

 

Throw away the fad diets. Chunk those pills in the trash. Start taking the time you once used to degrade your body and start THINKING THIN!

 

1.} Daily Affirmations:  I challenge you all to take some time in front of the mirror today telling yourself just how wonderful you are. Do it especially when it is hard to believe you are beautiful, inside and out. We cannot learn to like ourselves or celebrate the bodies we have by constantly talking ourselves down with negativity. I am convinced that we will never love and fully accept ourselves while simultaneously believing that we are less. Every time you call yourself “fat”, every time you call yourself “ugly”, every time you talk yourself down and refuse to believe in yourself, those words stick with your soul. And it changes us.

 

So for every negative thought you have about yourself…come up with at least three positive things to undo that degrading statement to edify and restore. Do it today. You matter and deserve this practice. Here are some examples. You can also start by simply saying to yourself, “Hello, beautiful friend, I think you are lovely.”

 

 

2.} Know your Body Type and How to Dress to Your Assets:

 

If you missed the “I Feel Fat and I Have Nothing to Wear” series last month, read more about styling your love handles and recognizing the importance of proper underpinnings. These quick tips are a great way to jumpstart how to celebrate your body type and make it work for you! Just because you aren’t a size 2 {or maybe you are}, you can still look and feel great about yourself.

 

 

3.} Take Care of YOU! How often do we put everyone else before ourselves? If you have a family, I know you have experienced this phenomenon that suggests we are to slay ourselves and put our “people” {kid crew and life partners} at the top of the priority list! Nonsense…I always love the reminder from our trusted advocates who fly the friendly skies to put the oxygen mask on ourselves FIRST before our children so we can be more effective to offer proper care as a result. So —that means suck some air in your nostrils as soon as humanly possible so you can give your all for what you were created for! And if it involves storing a paper bag in your car….there is no judgement. Been there. Done that.

 

 

4.} Have Accountability: The best way to make physical or mental changes is to involve others in your journey. Lord knows I have a therapist and a new health coach to challenge me on the kinds of thoughts and foods I expose my mind and body to. With that kind of regular support, with a friend, coach or counselor, you will be amazed at how quickly you can heal from old patterns and wounds. Make a list of your personal goals as it relates to self care and align your partners in crime to move the needle forward.

 

 

5.}  Start today: Adopt a “Blast off” and get her done mentality. Stop pressing snooze and commit to a life filled with gratitude for yourself and in turn live a more peace filled life as a result. I am enjoying this book by Allisan Maslan that speaks to this very topic.

 

Think Thin Kiss

 

May these quick tips inspire and challenge you in your personal Think Thin campaign. What first step will you take today to adopt this important philosophy? We’d love to hear all about it!

 

Acknowledging the Struggle is Real,

 

Jen Young